Hey guys and welcome back to my blog. 2018 was a tough year for me and I learnt many lessons. Sometimes it’s hard to remember the good things when you are going through a tough time, and I think it’s so important to try and take something away from stressful or tough times. In today’s post I’ll be sharing 7 of the most valuable lessons I learnt in 2018..
In amongst the bad – something amazing happened to me in 2018. If you’ve read my blog for a while you will have read me go on and on about my new accessible home (you can read about my first accessible Christmas in my new home here). I’ll never forget the day we got the phone call that we were being offered this property and the day we actually moved in. It reminded me that yes life isn’t fair at times and bad things do happen, but if you keep persevering, keep fighting, good things can and will happen.
Yes, it may take you longer to get to where other people are but that doesn’t mean you’ll never get there. Many people my age have jobs and spouses and kids and I’m just not there yet. It doesn’t mean it’ll never happen, I’ve just taken the longer route around. But you know what? That’s okay, and it just means it’ll make it all the more worth it when you get there.
You can’t just sit around and wait for something to happen. I am the master procrastinator and sometimes it can be easy to believe that’s things will just fall into your lap when you least expect it, but life doesn’t work like that. I want to write my book? I have to put the work in. I want to grow my blog? I have to put myself out there. Work hard and if you do the results will come.
It helps me get places, it means I don’t have to stay in bed, it means I can go out and do things I want to do. No matter how frustrated I get when places aren’t accessible, or when I crash into everything, or I hurt my shoulder transferring into it, it’s given me a life outside of my bed and that’s an amazing thing.
Don’t let anyone push you around. There are people that will take advantage of you if you let them, including those who are supposed to be providing a service that helps you live and improve your life. If someone is mistreating you, you have to stand up and say ‘hey I am a person, treat me like one’. No one has the right to belittle you and treat you like you mean nothing. I am lucky that I have an amazing best friend who stands up for me when I can’t stand up for myself. That’s a precious gift I’ll never take for granted.
Writing a book is hard work, committing yourself to learning everything about the craft of writing is hard, committing to improving and growing as a writer is hard. But the thought of never publishing a book, of never achieving my goals and dreams I have for my writing is worse, terrifying even. And every time I don’t want to write or I don’t feel inspired or motivated I remember that prospect and it keeps me going.
And you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. It doesn’t make you weak or selfish, and it’s okay to not have the energy to deal with those toxic people. You shouldn’t have to continue associating yourself with those people if it’s affecting your mental health. This is your life – nobody else’s.
What lessons did you learn in 2018?